Oh, to be in England
When Stanley Johnson, father of the British Prime Minister, announced that his son, Boris, ‘almost took one for the team’ in becoming gravely ill with Covid-19, I was puzzled. Hearing this as mere cringe-makingly archaic, public school-speak, a metaphor for the rugby field or the regiment, was somehow not quite sufficient as an explanation. Rather, it suggested something sacrificial, as if we were to consider his son a Christ-like figure, whose calling was to give up his life on our behalf, so that we might be saved.
By contrast, when Health Secretary, Matt Hancock admitted on The Andrew Marr Show yesterday that the spread of the virus was out of control, there was an air of defeat about him. He appeared to speak, not from the usual elevated position of government ministers, to subordinates who are to be duped and controlled, but rather as our equal, confiding in us. The diet of grandiosity that we have become accustomed to receiving from those who run our country was suddenly absent. Strangely, witnessing this glimpse of vulnerability in his sharing the worst with us was, despite being alarming, rather more acceptable. It made me reflect upon the stories that the UK tells itself and others about who we are.
Our leaders have proclaimed that, in seeking to find a response to the global pandemic, we are creating a ‘world-beating’ test-and-trace system. Likewise, we were the first country in the world to roll out a vaccination programme because we are ‘a much better country’ than others. The Brexit mantra is that we are going to ‘take back control of our borders, our money and our laws’, indeed, to ‘get our country back’ from those in Europe who have diminished us.
The words of ‘Rule Britannia’ attest to these ideas being nothing new. This dominant and pugilistic stance that we as a nation have adopted towards others is striking. Where does such a ferocity of competitiveness come from? How is it that we have gone beyond having pride in ourselves, and tipped over into superiority? As a seafaring nation, we once created an empire. To achieve this, we brutally enslaved others to create wealth for ourselves and we plundered the natural resources of other lands. This apparently made us a great nation.
Of course, we were not the only people to create an empire and commit crimes against humanity. However, there is something so dominant about English behaviour in particular that it has alienated and oppressed even those closest to us, namely the people of Wales, Scotland and Ireland. Unsurprisingly, the calls from Scotland and Wales for independence from England grow more insistent whilst Ireland’s ongoing convulsions over independence from the English are legendary. Unsurprisingly also, the EU have stood firm against our boasting that we shall not only leave the club but keep all the benefits.
In an attempt to answer the question about how we have become so obsessed with our own greatness, a psychological understanding of the English psyche may help. If we were a patient on the couch, a deeply narcissistic presentation would be noted. The puffed-up, ‘punching above our weight’, strutting of a tiny island off the coast of a large continent suggests a massive defence against an unconscious sense of inferiority. England’s dominance and control of the other countries in the union of the United Kingdom resembles a bigger sibling who bullies, envies and controls the little ones, for fear of losing its place.
Our attitude towards Europe suggests we have not attained the developmental goals of learning how to give and take, and to think about the needs of the other. You can only be in our gang so long as you understand that we are in charge and we make the rules. And you must also understand that we always have to win. If we think we are going to lose we will break those rules – because we can. We cannot tolerate losing because that would put us in touch with an unbearable sense of our own vulnerability.
So here we are. The independence that we have demanded for so long, is what we must rely upon now. We are on the verge of leaving the EU, with Europe refusing to give us what we want, and we English are frogmarching the other home nations along with us, they who appear to want to get away from us at the first opportunity. Many countries are closing their borders to us today because we are incubating a more infectious variant of Covid than has been known hitherto. It really feels like we are on our own. And it is frightening because we urgently need supplies of vaccine from Belgium and we need France to open its borders so that deliveries of food and medicines can reach us.
My hope is that this national crisis may prove to be a wake-up call to us, to take a look at who we really are and what are our true vulnerabilities. I no longer want to be ashamed of being English. I don’t want to be better than everyone else. I want us to be the best we can be, by sharing with others what we have to offer, and by learning with appropriate humility from them and by receiving from them, with gratitude. No individual or nation can manage alone, without collaborating with others and that involves understanding what mutuality and relationship really mean.